Stand aside in the coming battle, and though thou fightest be not thou the warrior
The battle continues but for the state of the witness this will be a battle with one important difference: you will fight , but you wont ever become a party to the battle. Don't become the repentance which is opposed to anger. Don't become celibacy which is opposed to sexual desire. Don't become the warrior. The battle will continue but become witness. Watch them both from a distance, with no bias.
Maintain equilibrium, know that both sex and celibacy are form of desire. Understand that both the world and Sanyaas are desires. Know that both bondage and freedom are forms of bondage. Put yourself beyond both, beyond the opposite. Say to yourself, I am just a watcher not a doer. I am not a doer, because a doer becomes a warrior. The moment you do something you have become a warrior.
There is only one method of non doing, and that is witnessing. Otherwise everything becomes a doing. Whatever we do the feeling of the doer permeates it, and on the level of the doer, Victory is not possible. On that level we choose one party over the other and once we have chosen a particular side, the other side automatically begins to strengthen. A day comes when we are forced to choose the other side. And when we favour the other side, the first side automatically begins to gain strength. And so we go on moving between this duality. The name of this duality is the world.
There is only one method for going beyond duality, and that is not choose between dualities but to watch them. What does this mean? This means when a sexual desire comes up, you watch that it is there. When a sexual desire comes up experience it and feel it taking you over from all sides. Don't fight but simply understand that it has taken hold of you. What ever it makes you do, do it, but stand aloof and go on watching that it is making you do this and this - just as if you were a spectator watching a game. Have no quarrel with it.
