Neurologically, we know, emotional reactions to pain vary significantly from person to person, and a considerable percentage of pain sensation is linked to the anxious desire to suppress it.
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In childhood you experienced joy in running after a butterfly, and that experience of joy is still there, present within you, And when you fell in love for the first time in your life and experienced a great, over flowing feeling of joy - that too is still present within you.
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This has been so long, so continuous that you have forgotten that you are different from it. This is a forgetfulness - natural, bound to happen in the circumstances - hence the attachment.
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Hope means that now, where ever he is in life, the seeker sees a ray of hope. If the night is very dark, he sees that the dawning of the day is closed. If the skies are full of black clouds he says, " How wonderful the flash of lightening will be!" If suffering comes to him he says, "Let us wait a little; happiness must be just around the corner.
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If your modus operandi is more subtle ( Or you really would like part of that stage yourself), A person like that may really eat at you. When you go into a meeting with great ideas and a readiness to just sit down and get straight to the point, a drama queen who is creating a stage in the board room is bound to flip your switches for frustration and rage.
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In Philosophy Camus compared the human condition to the fate of Sisyphus, condemned to push a rock up a hill again and again for all time. An absurd fate - but Camus insisted Sisyphus could be happy.
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As one travels the arduous path of Spirit and Light, it is a must for any seeker to move from Untruth to Truth. To do this one must be consistent, devoted and committed to the Truth Within. Trust is not the output of the ego mind; it is the fragrance of the Soul or Spirit.
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Envy ?There scenarios - which would irk you the most? (A) Your friend's salaries increase. Yours stays the same. (B) Their salaries stay the same. yours too (C) Their average salaries are cut. Yours is, too.If you answered (A) don't worry, that is perfectly normal: you are just the another victim of the green eyed monster.Here is a Russian tale: A farmer finds a magic lamp. He rubs it, and out of thin air appears a genie, who promises to grant him one wish. The farmer thinks about this for a little while. Finally, he says: ' my neighbour has a cow and I have none. I hope that his drops dead.'As absurd as it sounds, you can probably identify with the farmer. Admit it: a similar thought must have occurred to you at some point in your life. Imagine your colleague scores a big bonus and you get a gift certificate. You feel envy. This creates a chain of irrational behaviour: you refuse to help him any longer, sabotage his plans, perhaps even puncture the tyres of his Porsche. And you secretly rejoice when he breaks his leg sking.Of all the emotions, Envy is the most idiotic. Why because it is relatively easy to switch off. This is in contrast to anger sadness, or fear. "Envy is the most stupid of vices, for their is no single advantage to be gained from it,' Writes Balzac. in short, envy is the most sincere type of flattery; other than that, it is a waste of time.Many things spark envy: ownership, status, health, youth, talent, popularity, beauty. It is often confused with jealousy because the physical reaction are identical. The difference: the subject of envy is a thing ( Status, Money, Health etc). The subject of jealousy is the behaviour of a third person. Envy needs two people. Jealousy, on the other hand, requires three : Peter is jealous of Sam because the beautiful girl next door rings him instead.Paradoxically, with envy we direct resentment towards those who are most similar to us in age, career and residence. We don't envy business people from the century before last. We don't begrudge plants or animals. We don't envy millionaires on the other side of the globe - just those on the other side of the city. As writer, I dont envy musicians, managers or dentists, but other writers as a CEO you envy other, bigger CEOs. As a supermodel you envy more successful super models. Aristotle knew this: ' Potters envy Potters."This brings us to a classic practical error: let us say your financial success allows you to move from one of New York's grittier neighbourhood to Manhattan's upper east side. In the first few weeks you enjoy being in the centre of every thing and how impressed your friends are with your new apartment and address. But soon you realise that apartments of completely different proportions surround you. You have traded in your old peer group for one that is much richer. Things start to bother you that have not bothered you before. Envy and status anxiety are the consequences.How do you curb envy? First stop comparing yourself to others. Second, find your ' circle of competence' and fil it on your own. It doesn't matter how small your area of mastery is. The main thing is that you are king of the Castle.Like all emotions, Envy has its origins in our evolutionary past. If the hominid from the cave next door took a bigger share of the mammoth, it meant less for the looser. Envy motivated us to do something about it. Laissez - Faire hunter gatherer disappeared from the Gene pool; in extreme cases, they died of starvation, while others feasted. We are the offspring of the envious. But, in today's world, envy is no longer vital. If my neighbour buys himself a Porsche, It doesn't mean that he has taken anything from me.When I find myself suffering pangs of envy, my wife reminds me; ' It's OK to be envious - but only of the person you aspire to become.'
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